Choose Patience

      Four days a week I have the privilege of entering a world that is, well, slower.

As I have spent the last pandemic year working in a senior assisted living community, God has given me many opportunities to alter my hurried life.


            When tempted to rush, I take a deep breath, and silently pray for that elusive fruit of the Spirit: “Lord, give me patience, and give it to me now!”

Throughout my life it seems the more I longed for patience, the more agitated I became. Is it any surprise impatience causes negative emotions? Frustration, irritation, and anger can elevate our stress levels, which impacts our overall health. Chronic impatience throws life into imbalance both physically and spiritually.

      Patience is a byproduct of a soul at peace, a person who cares more for others—especially those who are slow because they are struggling. Rather than just grit my teeth and count to ten, how much better to actually become a person of serenity for whom patience is the fruit?

      When Paul lists the qualities of love in 1 Corinthians 13, patience comes first: “Love is patient and kind” (v. 4).

Healthy human relationships are built on the foundation of patience. 

Here are some ways I choose patience:

  • Slow down. Impatience comes with hurry.
  • Breathe deeply and relax in the situation.
  • Treat others as I would want to be treated.
  • Give up my need to be right or in control.
  • Pray silently for God’s help and presence.

As we seek to always view others as worthy and made in God’s image, we will discover that patience flows freely. It is not an option for Christ-followers, but one more way in which we can extend love and mercy.

Lord, first of all I want to thank You for small victories I am making in an effort to be more patient. Help me continue to look out for others and to resist hurry. May I also discover much joy along the slow(er) path. Amen.

         May the grace of Christ, the love of God, and the friendship of the Holy Spirit  bring you comfort and strength, Lucinda

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©2021 Lucinda Secrest McDowell

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  1. Maggie Wallem Rowe on October 13, 2021 at 12:01 pm

    Thank you for this, Cindy. One of my new friends this year is actually named Patience, and I love her name. We’ve had plenty of opportunities to practice this fruit of the spirit while caring for our four and two-year-olds. I hope you’ll continue sharing illustrations of what it’s like to work in the senior facility.

  2. Crickett Keeth on October 13, 2021 at 12:55 pm

    As always, a very timely post. I’ve been needing patience this week, so thank you for these words of wisdom and encouragement!

  3. Lisa Larsen Hill on October 13, 2021 at 11:45 pm

    Thanks for reminding us of Paul’s letter; Love is patient and kind. If we did just this in our world? Can we imagine. Thank you for sharing your ways to patience!

  4. Jan Kellie on October 15, 2021 at 1:29 am

    Thank you Lucinda…This speaks volumes! I needed this today….. God wants our attention and we need to direct
    our lives to him. As I reflect upon his resurrection I think on how he left us with the Holy Spirit a comforter to help us
    along the path of life. This was all intentional, and I need to be intentional to his guidance each day.

    I too, can get caught up with a hurried life. I want to seek the patience that God wants for me to just breathe…and
    enjoy the moments along the path of life. As I spend time with my Dad and see his friends at Assisted Living it definitely
    does makes me more aware of the gift that God gives us each day.

    Thank you for sharing your heart Lucinda. You blessed me!

    Jan Kellie

  5. Teresa+A+Moyer on October 18, 2021 at 4:34 pm

    Lack of patience in my life lead to frustration. Frustration gets your eyes off of Jesus and onto the world. Loved this timely reminder to see patience.

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