Choose What Matters Most

All the things. Good things. Worthy things. Extraordinary people, adventurous journeys, breathtaking beauty, life-changing words, ful­filling service, quiet moments, and soul-stretching creativity.

But how do I choose?

My own life is full of obligation, hurry, complicated relation­ships, work demands, health challenges—all seasoned with occasional bouts of guilt and insecurity. Because I can’t do it all. I can’t be it all. Too often choices are already made for me in the flash of a need to be filled or a last-minute request granted.

I tell myself, “It’s all good.” I am not strug­gling between the lesser of two evils; but usually between two equally good things. My challenge is how to discern what matters most.

God offers a path that brings life to us — that which enriches our existence rather than crushes our spirit. “For I want you to understand what really matters, so that you may live pure and blameless lives until the day of Christ’s return.” Philippians 1:10

We can choose.

It is actually within our power to decide each day how we will live out the numerous interruptions, joys, crises, and surprises that come our way.

When I feel alone in my secret struggles, I can choose connection instead of isolation. When headlines are frightening, I can choose courage instead of fear. When people break my heart, I can choose healing instead of despair. And when the world is a cacophony of chaos, I can choose silence, calm, and serenity.

Are you ready to choose what matters most?

But there is a caveat—every time we say yes to one choice, we must inevi­tably say no to something else. To let go of much in order to embrace less. To relinquish productivity in order to rest. To break down the polished façade in order to live with authenticity.

I hope you will join me here on the Encouraging Words Blog throughout the rest of this year as I offer one biblical choice that has helped change my life.

You know that choice you need to make right now? Ask yourself if it is life-draining or life-giving. Then, choose life!

Lord, I give up. I’m tired of trying to do all and be all, only to end up disappointing everyone, myself, and, I feel, even You. Will You help me begin to intentionally make choices for life through Your Word and Your way? Starting today, and through Holy Spirit power, I begin. Amen.

         May the grace of Christ, the love of God, and the friendship of the Holy Spirit  bring you comfort and strength, Lucinda

“Helping You Choose a Life of Serenity and Strength”

©2021 Lucinda Secrest McDowell

Lucinda Secrest McDowell is a storyteller and seasoned mentor who engages both heart and mind while “Helping You Choose a Life of Serenity & Strength.” She has authored 15 books including “Soul Strong – 7 Keys to a Vibrant Life” and “Life-Giving Choices – 60 Days to What Matters Most.” She writes from “Sunnyside” cottage in New England and shares encouraging words at

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  1. Maggie Wallem Rowe on October 6, 2021 at 12:38 pm

    I’m glad to have a chance to revisit Life-Giving Choices through your weekly posts the next three months, Cindy. My to-do List today is so long I will only accomplish it by the grace of God. Thank you for these wise words.

    • Lucinda Secrest McDowell on October 6, 2021 at 1:37 pm

      Praying the most important gets done, bff.

  2. Gail Kittleson on October 6, 2021 at 1:13 pm

    So thankful we have choices in this life!

    • Lucinda Secrest McDowell on October 6, 2021 at 1:37 pm


      • Lita Norsworthy on October 6, 2021 at 2:49 pm

        I too want to be discerning and choose what matters most!! Thank you for your words of encouragement and challenge!!

    • Jeannie+Waters on October 6, 2021 at 4:27 pm

      I needed this message today. Thank you.

  3. Evelyn Mason Wells on October 7, 2021 at 7:33 pm

    Thank you! I really needed this today. I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed right now. Your excellent post gives me encouragement to learn to say “No!” and choose life instead of saying “Yes” when the answer should be “No.”

  4. Evelyn Mason Wells on October 7, 2021 at 7:33 pm

    Great post.

  5. Nancy+Smith on October 22, 2021 at 7:23 pm

    Good words to think about today! I have also learned that if we don’t make a choice, decisions will be made for us. And that is not always the best.

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