“Mama, I Cut Off All My Hair!”

Mama, I got somethin’ to tell ya…” said four-year-old Maggie as she knocked on my door during naptime. 

“What is it hon?” I casually replied as I closed my notebook.

          “Mama, I cut off all my hair!”

          And she had. Her shoulder-length bob had been turned punk-like with several bangs only 1/8 inch long.

For once in my life, I was speechless. But I distinctly heard a voice in my head, “Be careful, Cindy, she will always remember how you handle this one!”

          After studying GRACE for so long, I was now faced with the Lab Exam. 

As I held Maggie close, her words tumbled out,

  • Mama, can you make my hair long again?
  • Mama, am I still pretty?
  • Mama, do you still love me?

          My actions-have-consequences sermon could wait. What she needed now was an assurance of love, an offering of grace.     

          Do you ever feel like you’re running out of love? You’ve simply used up your allotment for the day, the week, the whole month.

          If so, isn’t it great to be reminded “If we love each other, God lives in us, and his love is brought to full expression in us.” (1 John 4.12) When the Lord dwells in our heart,  it’s “His love” that fills and releases through us. 

          Because love was “brought to full expression” in me that snowy day as I was writing a presentation on grace.   

On my own, I would have FLIPPED OUT – horrified that she had found and used scissors. Chagrined that the next day was Picture Day at Preschool and I had, of course, pre-ordered a gazillion photos (see photo.) But with God’s love inside me, I was able to wash her hair, trim it and tell her no matter what she did or looked like, I would always love her.

For Maggie, at that time, it was enough.

          Who hasn’t stumbled into the heavenly Father’s presence with a similar confession – “Lord, I have somethin’ to tell ya’. I blew it again. Do you still love me?” How grateful I am that He, too, gathers me in His arms of love and grace.

Because God’s very nature is love, He cannot be other than what He is.

We can refuse the love of God. In fact, most of us have at one point in our lives found a reason to do just that. But we can never stop God loving us. We can reject His love which may prevent its flow into us, but we can do nothing to stop its outflow from Him. Grace is God’s unconditional love freely given to the sinful, the imperfect and the totally undeserving.

          Are you having a hard time loving someone today? Would it help to remember how very much you have been loved, even at your lowest point of failure?

“Christianity is not primarily a moral code, but a grace-laden mystery; it is not essentially a philosophy of love, but a love affair; it is not keeping rules with clenched fists, but receiving a gift with open hands.”

Brennan Manning

          Oh friend, open the gift of Grace. Put away the scissors. And take the Love deep into your heart.

         May the grace of Christ, the love of God, and the friendship of the Holy Spirit  bring you comfort and strength, Lucinda

“Helping You Choose a Life of Serenity and Strength”

©2022 Lucinda Secrest McDowell      www.LucindaSecrestMcDowell.com

Lucinda Secrest McDowell is a storyteller and seasoned mentor who engages both heart and mind while “Helping You Choose a Life of Serenity & Strength.” She has authored 15 books including “Soul Strong – 7 Keys to a Vibrant Life” and “Life-Giving Choices – 60 Days to What Matters Most.” She writes from “Sunnyside” cottage in New England and shares encouraging words weekly at LucindaSecrestMcDowell.com


  1. Ginny+McNamara on May 11, 2022 at 11:58 am

    Loved your message today and also the picture of Maggie❤️How cute!

  2. Crickett Keeth on May 11, 2022 at 12:53 pm

    Love this! Thank you for this reminder!

  3. Maggie Rowe on May 11, 2022 at 1:05 pm

    I have always loved this story and that fabulous photo of Maggie. Asymmetrical fringes are fashionable now, so your creative girl was simply ahead of her time!

  4. Linda+Mackillop on May 11, 2022 at 2:00 pm

    I love this story! My teenage son asked the same question, “Dad, do you still love me?” when he accidentally started a 17-acre fire while making a film in the midst of a drought in Virginia using fireworks for special effects! He just needed to know he was still loved, no matter what he had done. Love your words here.❤️

  5. LINDA MILLER on May 11, 2022 at 2:45 pm

    I faced this very same situation with my daughter at about the same age. I, however, blew it. Thank God for grace! I sure needed it that day even more than she did.

  6. Gloria Delk on May 22, 2022 at 8:28 pm

    That is quite a story! Love this!:) Your handling of this delicate situation reflects beautifully God’s grace and unconditional love for each of us. Thank you for sharing this lovely devotional.

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